Speaking to Kaling on her podcast “Archetypes,” the pair discussed the “stigma of singleton” and derided the terms “spinster” and “old maid.” Markle also said that when she became engaged to her now-husband, some of the reaction she received was actually sexist.
“When I started dating my husband, we became engaged and everyone was just like, ‘Oh my god, you’re so lucky! He chose you!'” she detailed.
“And at a certain point, after you hear it a million times over, you’re like, ‘Well, I chose him too,'” the former actress continued. “But thankfully, I have a partner who was countering that narrative for me and going, ‘They’ve got it all wrong. I’m the lucky one, ’cause you chose me.'”
Emphasizing her disapproval, Markle added, “It’s gendered and it’s archetyped and it’s stereotyped.”
“‘You’re so lucky,'” she recalled of the intended compliments. “And it just feeds into this idea that you’re waiting for someone to tell you that you’re good enough, as opposed to knowing that you’re good enough on your own.”
Markle and Prince Harry wed in May 2018 at St. George’s Chapel at Windsor Castle in the United Kingdom.
In recent years, the pair have distanced themselves from the royal family, giving up royal titles and throwing out accusations of racism.
Alternatively, rumors about Markle bullying royal aides popped up in the media. In July, an investigation into the allegations concluded, but findings are being kept under wraps, allegedly because Buckingham Palace is “terrified” of antagonizing Meghan and Prince Harry, who’ve routinely trashed all things royal.
“Considering those who participated [in the investigation] did so at great personal and reputational risk to themselves, the fact that they haven’t even been told what the findings are is unfathomable,” a source explained. “I am sure they will be deeply distressed, but perhaps not entirely surprised given how things have been handled. The household seems to be terrified of upsetting or provoking Harry and Meghan.”
Notably, Meghan did not attend Prince Philip’s funeral last year since she was pregnant with her second child and instructed not to fly.
She was reportedly not invited to be by Queen Elizabeth II’s bedside on Thursday, the day she passed.