Australian feminists are recovering Monday after being triggered en masse by a woman’s Facebook post soliciting sandwich ideas.
According to the Daily Telegraph, “Maddie,” an Australian mom was, apparently, tired of making the same sandwiches for her husband to take with him to work for lunch, so she asked the 26,186 members of the “Northshore Mums” Facebook group for ideas on how to improve her sandwich game – maybe some new lunch meats she hadn’t thought of, or a cheese or a spread that would pep up his daily ham on white.
“I would love to hear what other mums make their hubbies for lunch and snacks throughout the work day,” she posted. “We are getting over sandwiches.”
What Maddie got, instead of cute recipes and artisan mayonnaise suggestions, was a violent backlash. Australia’s feminists moms berated Maddie for perpetuating systemic male oppression, and lambasted her choice of lifestyle, which included packing her husband’s lunches along with her kids’.
“Your husband is a grown up and you’re not his mother,” wrote one group member.
“My husband can make his own damn lunch,” scolded another.
One user even went further: “I make my husband the same thing he makes me. Nothing!!”
Others called her a “slave,” and a “throwback” to the 1950s. They accused Maddie of being “weird,” and insisted that no woman in her right mind would ever so much as toss together a peanut butter and jelly for her harried husband.
Poor Maddie was even exposed to the inner workings of some “feminist” marriages, as some clearly ill-tempered women took issue with their own husbands in their comments. “I was married for twenty years and my favourite packed lunch for my husband was called a Get it Yourself with a side order of I’m not your mother,” one said, scathingly, possibly implying that her poor husband goes without food or, for that matter, any semblance of empathy.
According to the Telegraph, the vicious Maddie attack was orchestrated and masterminded by a woman named Polly Dunning, who also happens to be the daughter of Gloria Steniem’s Australian counterpart, Jane Caro. To give you an idea of how motherly and nurturing Dunning really is, last year, she wrote that her young son “disgusted her:” “I felt sick at the thought of something male growing inside me.”
Dunning’s advice to Maddie when Maddie tried to take control of the situation, saying she’d been merely asking for food advice? “You should pack him nothing for lunch. And you didn’t really ask for advice, you asked what other ‘mums’ pack their ‘hubbies’ (which, to me, is slightly weird phrasing, but whatever).”
Maddie says she was “devastated” by the interaction. She and her husband are saving up for a house, and her husband is not only the breadwinner, but helps with the kids and cooks dinner every other night. “The least I can do is make him a bloody sandwich. I love my man, he deserves to eat lunch and we can’t afford to eat out,” she said.
Marriage, of course, is a partnership, and each couple defines for themselves the parameters of their relationship, from how they work together, to who makes the sandwiches when time and money get tight. Feminists have a hard time believing that some women can, in fact, be both totally empowered, and pretty good at making their husband’s lunches – or really that, when given a choice, some women might actually want to show their significant other how much they care.
As for that sandwich, Maddie, well, here’s my suggestion: try a little Serrano ham on soft pretzel bread, with brie and arugula. Plain chips on the side.