On Thursday, Mic, an American internet and media company that caters to millennials, released a video depicting trans women discussing their travails; but Mic, tweeting about the video, insisted that heterosexual males are insecure about being attracted to trans women, a perspective articulated by some of the trans women themselves.
A trans woman called Serena, who is a multimedia producer for Mic, starts the ball rolling by asserting that people who claim trans women are really men are wrong, and that he is insulted when people say he’s playing dress up:
If the idea is that a guy dating a trans woman makes him gay, then what you’re basically saying is that a trans woman is not a woman, she’s like a boy playing dress up. I mean, like, I haven’t put in all the work and the money and the time and the resources into my transition for people to say I’m playing dress up. I’m not playing dress up; this is who I am 24/7.
Another trans woman continues by claiming heterosexual men who dismiss trans women’s claims to be women are secretly attracted to trans women:
Certain cis men who I find are trans-attracted, their approach to trans women, specifically, is a very dismissive approach. I think that their view on us is that of a weak boy. They don’t really see us as women.
A third trans woman states that heterosexual men approach him more at night:
I tend to dress a little bit skimpy, in skimpy things. Guys definitely, you know, tend to approach me more often than not at nighttime than in the day. It’s that whole thing, you know, keeping us a secret, and you know, not wanting to engage with us in front of everyone else. So even if they’re looking at us in the daytime they won’t engage from my experience.
Back to Serena, who claims that heterosexual men will be attracted to him until they realize that he’s not a typical woman:
There are times where a man will approach me, and then, you know, they think I’m attractive, and then they start to talk to me and they hear my voice and then they’re like, “Oh, she’s transgender,” and then, like, I feel the immediate reaction at that point is to get angry or to get violent, or to be like, “Why did you trick me?” Like, you know, “Why are you walking around like this, trying to fool all these men?”
Finally, a claim from the second trans woman, that he’s really stronger than heterosexual men because of the travails he suffers day-to-day:
Whether I’m weaker than you or not, whether my lifestyle is different than yours, whether you may not understand my gender identity, it doesn’t mean that I’m weaker than you. I find myself to be a lot stronger than those people, actually, because my strength has to come from within, you know the endurance of what I have to endure day to day and what I have to do day to day to myself and all the things I face on a day-to-day basis. I think it makes me resilient and that actually makes stronger than that kind of man so I actually think they’re weaker.
The video features intermittent shots of men looking at something, although we don't know what; but it's a good guess that most men dismissive of trans women's claim to be women don't harbor secret fantasies about dating them, let alone sleeping with them.